Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Does Talking to Myself Make Me Crazy?

Living in NYC for 12 years I passed my share of people on the street who would be having full out-loud conversations with themselves, I'm sure you know the type.  

We usually classify those folks as being "crazy," despite the fact that all of us are having those same internal conversations only we keep them neatly tucked away inside our own heads.
Do you know what I'm speaking of? The record player of incessant thought, that voice inside of us that can be our biggest critic, naysayer or harbinger of disaster? The voice that can keep us stuck in the muck?  

If you know what I'm talking about, congratulations - you just made the first step toward awareness of your ego voice and that first step of presence is truly a gift.  Being on the road to finding your highest self is a life long practice! 

The beautiful part about our journey here on this Earth at this exact moment is that you and I are the ultimate creators of our lives.  

We have a choice in EVERY SINGLE moment about what we are allowing ourselves to think.  

Our thoughts create our reality.  When you change one single thought, you literally change your experience on this Earth. 

                                           STOP for a moment and think about that. 

   ~When you change one single thought, you literally 
change your experience on this Earth.~

It's something so simple ~ yet can be really difficult for all of us.  Here are some simple steps that I use and find helpful:

Awareness is the First Step
What are you thinking about? How do those thoughts make you feel? Are you joyful? Or do you feel sad, mad, angry, afraid? Remember that your thoughts are merely the sum of all the experiences you have had in your lifetime.  It's important to stop and see if those thoughts are based on truth or on a fiction you have created.  It's really easy to tell ourselves stories and make those stories real. 

Create a Sacred Space to Meditate In
This doesn't have to take up a lot of room - just a space where you can go to sit and work on quieting the mind.  If you have never meditated before, try just focusing on your breath as it enters and leaves the body.  Try it for 2 min, 5 min etc. and increase your time as it feels comfortable. If you feel the mind wandering - gently bring your focus back to your breath.  

Practice Journaling 
Journaling is an excellent way for us to examine our thoughts and see where they are coming from.

How do you practice being of "no mind" ? What is your experience like?

Please share this with others!

Thursday, February 23, 2012

The Power of Integrity

Scratching my head this morning, trying to remember when it was or where it was that I read the definition of integrity.  

"Integrity is being the same person you are inside your 
house as you are outside of your house." 

We go through life and sometimes we believe that in order to advance ourselves in our relationships or career that we have to be someone else.  Take on a different persona, play a different part.  Have you ever noticed someone's behavior change when they are with different people? 

The beautiful part of being in integrity is that you never have a sleepless night wondering if someone will "find out" that you hid the truth.  

I read the Wisdom Commons post this morning and loved how they talked about integrity:

"Integrity means being true to ourselves and being honest, upright, and decent in our dealings with others. When we are guided by integrity, our thoughts and words are in line with each other; our actions align with our principles. Our conduct speaks for us, more eloquently than words ever could. It becomes the basis for both reputation and self-respect. Integrity demands courage but delivers untroubled sleep.

Developing integrity requires internal honesty, because we can’t be honest with others unless we are honest with ourselves. It requires self awareness, since we cannot accurately communicate what we do not know.

People of integrity can be counted on to stand up for what it right, even if it is unpopular, and to behave with honor even when there is no one around to see. Integrity allows other people to trust us because they know that we value our commitments and seek to live by them. It is one of the cornerstones of loving relationships and shared endeavors."

What would the world be like, what would your life be like if we were all just a little more honest with ourselves?  

Thursday, February 16, 2012

The Language of Your Soul

"Feelings?" It's a tough one to define, let alone try to understand within our own experience.  According to the dictionary, feelings are defined as, "capacity for emotion." 
I have recently discovered through the loving encouragement of my future husband and my foray into this spiritual/internal quest, that I used all sorts of tactics for years to keep my true feelings at arms length. 

I disavowed any feelings outside of joy & happiness for a long time because it was just too painful to allow the other feelings in (e.g. anger, sadness, fear) however, the funny thing about not allowing yourself to feel those other emotions is that they start showing up anyway. (That stomach ache that won't go away... IBS attacked my body for years, the migraine headaches, etc.) 

Whether you ascribe to the metaphysical, hippy/dippy, mind/body/spirit philosophy or not ~ its hard to deny that there is a connection between our emotional state and our bodies.  Doctors agree that, when we feel good in our heart and mind, we usually feel good in our bodies too.  When we have pain and "heartache" our bodies respond to that as well. 

We all have the innate ability to heal or hurt our bodies.  Ever heard the expression when someone is just "sick over something?" Usually it has to do with some experience in their lives which is manifesting itself in the body as sickness.  

So how do you begin the journey to understanding your own feelings? Here is my process:

  1. Awareness - Just becoming aware that you are feeling something is a huge step in the right direction.
  2. Define the Emotion - Keep it simple: Mad, Sad, Glad, Hurt, Afraid.  Try each one of these emotions on until you find the correct one. 
  3. Consider Journaling - My friend Donna Belt taught me this! This isn't the kind of journaling you may be thinking of. This is journaling in a stream of consciousness kind of way that allows you to deeply into your own spirit and ask yourself the tough questions that only you have the answers to.  Most times (especially women!) go to their friends & family seeking council when the first step is to turn within and have some self exploration time first. 
    • Tips for journaling 
      • Purchase a special journal that you feel excited to write in - one with colors or design that appeals to you. 
      • Purchase/find a special pen that you enjoy writing with - one whose ink is pleasing to you 
      • Make a ritual out of it - purchase a candle (Soy Signature has some great ones!) and light it each time you get ready to journal. Create sacred space in your home.
      • See what comes up for your naturally and then write it down - for example if you are feeling mad about how your boss is treating you at work you may write down "I am angry about my boss and the way she is treated me"the next question would be, "Why do I feel angry" then you would write "I feel angry because..." then write what comes up for you.  
      • Remember you are not writing this for anyone else but YOU! So write with an open heart, don't edit yourself and see what happens.
I would LOVE to hear about your process and how journaling is helping you.


Saturday, February 11, 2012

In Honor of Valentine's Day, I wanted to Republish this Message from my teacher Joseph Russo, you can subscribe to his Thoughts to Live By: A Guide to Creative Consciousness or you can email him by clicking here


When we feel a special ‘chemistry’ with someone we may be tempted to believe that we’ve met our soul-mate and fall helplessly in love. But this kind of uncontrollable romantic reaction is unpredictable, and if it happens is unlikely to last.

This is why dating can provoke high anxiety and why many romantic relationships soon struggle or fail, even if they start off with great chemistry -- at any moment a new desire, judgment or turn of events can cool or upset things.

As wonderful as it may seem or be, romantic love is usually based on undependable subjective reactions which make it very chancy.

To keep love alive, romantic love needs to grow into a higher and more stable form of love -- a more mature true love.

Mature true love doesn’t arise from subjective chemistry as romantic love does. It arises from conscious will. It doesn’t just happen. It’s a deliberate free choice made at a clear, calm moment of conscious self-possession: to commit, care and give unconditionally to another person. At this level one fully accepts another -- failings and all -- 
and places their well-being on a par with their own.

So if you’re seeking true and lasting love, don’t look to accidental chemistry ... look to a higher-will capacity.

That’s where the power to produce lasting love lies. At a mature consciously willing level, two people not only select and deliberately choose to love each other, they make that choice daily, again and again and again, continually growing their feelings of love.

Thus, while romantic love may only be an capricious accident of human nature, true lasting love is a deliberate ongoing creative act of mature human will.

Goodness and joy to all, Joseph.


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Paying It Forward ~

Yesterday, I was getting a coffee at Dunkin' Doughnuts and something within me said, "pay for the guys coffee behind you." It was so much fun and I especially enjoyed the DD worker's expression and reaction when I told her what I wanted to do. She looked at me a little like I was crazy. My only request to her? "The message is to pay it forward." After all...

What you put out there, is what you receive....

Found a wonderful blog this morning called www.thehalfwaypoint.net, and here were the 50 tips on how you can pay it forward.


I have learned from experience that when we commit an act of kindness for others, for strangers, it’s only a matter of time before that kindness comes back to us.  Being kind is a gift that gives both to the giver and the receiver.  Call it “what goes around comes around”.  I don’t even think we need to learn or listen to or engage in all this talk of universal laws and the law of cause and effect, the law of attraction, etc. 
I propose something simpler and more direct: how about we see for ourselves through practice?
So, what little, simple acts of kindness can we do to pay it forward today?
  1. put a quarter in a meter, any meter, that’s about to expire
  2. leave a copy of a really great book you’ve read in a cafe for someone else to enjoy
  3. be nice to the customer service people who are trying to help you with your technological difficulties
  4. tip your restaurant server generously
  5. thank the cooks, waitstaff and bussers personally
  6. say something nice or funny or goofy to the toll booth attendant (like, “Don’t drive too fast, now” or “Glad to have encountered you today”, or something less hokey)
  7. forgive a driver directing road rage at you
  8. buy or pack a meal for a homeless person (or give him/her your to-go box from a restaurant)
  9. give a warm coat to a homeless person
  10. offer to do pro bono work on a project where your skills are needed
  11. mentor someone
  12. make a donation
  13. say a prayer or whisper a kind wish for someone
  14. compliment a stranger
  15. send a box of donuts or bagels or muffins to a construction site
  16. next time you leave a foreign country, give all or some of what’s left of your currency to someone who resides in that country
  17. next time you’re at the airport, offer to pull the bags belonging to a woman or a mother with child out of the conveyor belt
  18. praise generously
  19. give local tips (re: restaurants, sights, etc.) to a tourist
  20. show respect equally to all human beings
  21. put a tip in a street musician’s jar
  22. let someone cut in front of you at the grocery store
  23. tell a funny joke to a stranger
  24. give someone a chance to prove him or herself
  25. encourage someone to pursue their dream
  26. allow someone to let his or her light shine
  27. show support to an artist or writer or musician
  28. hold the door open for someone
  29. tip a cab driver generously
  30. teach a child something you wish you knew at that age
  31. smile at someone who’s sad
  32. smile at strangers
  33. offer sincere, kind words to someone who’s hurting
  34. visit a hospice and spend some time with a terminally ill patient
  35. volunteer at a battered women’s shelter
  36. spend some time with a senior citizen living alone
  37. give up your seat on a crowded bus or train or ferry
  38. inspire someone to be the best that they can be
  39. give someone the benefit of the doubt
  40. offer to babysit for a single mother
  41. offer the FedEx, UPS or DHL delivery person something to drink especially on a warm day
  42. help a pregnant lady
  43. sit and talk with a homeless person and learn their story
  44. loan something to someone and forget about it
  45. loan money on Kiva
  46. contribute to a friend’s child’s education fund
  47. give blood
  48. show respect to a soldier regardless of your pacifism
  49. donate to or volunteer for the Make-A-Wish Foundation
  50. replace an angry or bitter thought toward someone with a loving thought (or at least try)

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Happy Today

"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself:
I, not events, have the power to make 
me happy or unhappy today. 
I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, 
tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, 
and I'm going to be happy in it."
-Groucho Marx

This morning I am reviewing the techniques we have learned while taking class 
with my dear friend Nancy Burns on Intuitive Healing.

The first one I am focusing on is how to open and balance our chakras. (click link if you need help understanding what chakras are)

Here is one technique called "Sound Breathing" that Nancy shared with us

Sound breathing:

Large breath in to begin each chakra.

Focus attention on the chakra, vividly picture the color and make the long continuous sound on the outbreath.  Hold the sound as long as comfortably possible without repeating.

Visualize the chakra open in front and back and spinning in a clockwise manner

-          root – red – sound aah (safety)
-          sacral – orange – sound ooh (creativity/sexuality)
-          solar plexus – yellow – sound o (will power)
-          heart – green – sound u (love)
-          throat – blue – sound e (voice)
-          third eye – violet – sound sunnnn (intuition)
-          crown – creamy white – sound summmm (divinity)
-          above - ohm

Another version replaces the sounds with Lam, Vam, Ram, Yam, Ham, Om, Om, Om – in same order.

Would love to hear about your experience with this. How is it for you? Please comment below.