When we feel a special ‘chemistry’ with someone we may be tempted to believe that we’ve met our soul-mate and fall helplessly in love. But this kind of uncontrollable romantic reaction is unpredictable, and if it happens is unlikely to last.
This is why dating can provoke high anxiety and why many romantic relationships soon struggle or fail, even if they start off with great chemistry -- at any moment a new desire, judgment or turn of events can cool or upset things.
As wonderful as it may seem or be, romantic love is usually based on undependable subjective reactions which make it very chancy.
To keep love alive, romantic love needs to grow into a higher and more stable form of love -- a more mature true love.
So if you’re seeking true and lasting love, don’t look to accidental chemistry ... look to a higher-will capacity.
That’s where the power to produce lasting love lies. At a mature consciously willing level, two people not only select and deliberately choose to love each other, they make that choice daily, again and again and again, continually growing their feelings of love.
Thus, while romantic love may only be an capricious accident of human nature, true lasting love is a deliberate ongoing creative act of mature human will.
Goodness and joy to all, Joseph.